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How to Be Perfect, Part 1

I've been studying lately about our thoughts, positive and negative, and how they affect our world. In one exercise I had to concentrate on getting rid of any and all negative thoughts. At first I thought'd it'd be easy, because I don't have many negative thoughts in general. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized I do have a certain set of negative thoughts which I replay in my mind every day. They are about what a terrible housekeeper I am (I don't actually clean house much), and about how I look fat (I'm about 20 lbs. overweight, though you wouldn't know it by my tall frame) and eat the wrong foods all the time (too much sugar). I also too often say out loud "we can't afford that", which is self-defeating, as well as humiliating to my husband, who takes pride in providing well for his family (it's a guy thing).

So I began to purge myself of these negative thoughts. I decided and realized that I while I may not keep a spotless house, yet it is a well-kept house: various parts get cleaned on a regular basis, and in general it is picked up and looks beautiful. And instead of spending hours cleaning I am using my time with the wonderful pursuits of cooking & baking, gardening & preserving, needlework, reading and writing, watching good movies, spending time with my children and my friends, running errands and other various household duties, collecting hobbies, etc. It is a good life.

 

Published Wednesday, December 17, 2008 12:03 PM by jer
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Julia said:

Wow. Perfect is such a strong word! :)

This reminds me of what James says about being a truly perfect person: being in perfect control of your tongue.  I don't think I'll ever make it, though I'll always be trying.

Though I have never thought you were a perfect person (I don't think that of anyone) I have always thought you were a very GOOD person, and I  admire many things that you have accomplished.  Nice post.

December 29, 2008 7:12 PM
 

jer said:

Thanks for the comment! Actually, if you look at yourself at the end of time through God's eyes (how He always sees you anyway), you'll find that you are perfect and holy and beautiful!!!! :-)

Love, Jerilyn

December 30, 2008 10:54 AM
 

Daun said:

I always want to be perfect, but I let too many things get in my way and get really overwhelmed, so I'm trying to learn to love what I am capable of doing and try to take "perfect" out of the equation.  I went to a seminar a couple of years ago (this was put on for people with MS, which includes me) and the speaker said "some days you're going to be feeling really good, and other days the MS will cause you problems and you'll be feeling not so good.  What you have to strive to do is put forth your best every day, regardless of how you feel.  One day you'll be at your best best, and the next day you could be at your worst best, but you did your best both days and have to accept that."  I try to remember that, especially on the days I'm really struggling to be "perfect" and the MS won't let me be perfect, so I'm attempting to accept my worst best on those days and celebrate my best best when it happens.  2009: the year of not being perfect, but accepting what I am capable of and rejoice at that.

January 2, 2009 12:55 AM

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